Can you imagine rugby or football without winners and losers? What about videogames? This talk begins with a lightning overview of LGBTQIA+ ("queer") representation in games, queer games creators, and the sometimes literally life and death issues at stake in queer games and queer gaming. It then considers how queer games redefine winning and losing, not through pacifism but by calling into question whether games (and other players) exist to be "beaten."